Monday, July 14, 2008

Miss u ......

Well back after ages...so apologies first...well moving on..I hope u people must have missed me while I was away :P I missed you guys too..and nowadays (or should say most recently) it seems my life has taken such a major U-turn that I see everything is going haywire and nothing seems right and at times I feel nothing but lonely. I know I have my friends (includes u guys too) you all here when I need you right there, but still it feels like many questions are so clogged in me and Iam struggling to get their answers. But all in vain...........so will u guys help me out...???
So some of the questions...

1. Why do we actually miss somebody we love atmost dearly...(there r many reasons which lead to its answer but still....)

2. Sometimes it so happens that the person we love doesn't necessarily miss or love us with the same amount of exuberance and feelings???why are there cases of One sided love - even when situations show that both the parties (i mean the boy & girl) are equally and totally in love with each other???



3. Why does long time relationship (say about which is more than 5yrs) break off so easily...doesnt the love,trust and commitment no longer remain the same???

As of now these are few questions popping out...all your inputs are most welcome..thanks in anticipation..
So long...once again Iam sorry for being absent but promise to cover up for it within few days and promise to be more regular in the blogging business as well :)
Cheers... :)...

36 comments:

ŋεεяѕ said...

oye pagal...dont beat urself by asking these questions...we miss somebody more than we miss others bcoz once ure in love, u want to be with that person all the time...in some cases that person might reciprocate ur feelings in the exact measure but sometimes...but if he doesnt, then its nobody's fault..not even urs..'

and ure talking abt a 5 yr long relationship...sweets ppl change with time, then it doesnt matter whether it was a 5 yr or 10 yr long relationship.

if im right in what im thinking right now abt this post, then mads...it will take time but u have to get out of it...for ur own sake

tc :-*

*~*{Sameera}*~* said...

Hey sweetie!Welcome back :)

First of all,HUGSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!

Now to answer your questions,

1)Because that person is a part of us.

2)Both sides have to balance the love.At times,one feels more strongly than the other and vice versa.It happens in the best of relationships.Just a need for one's own space.

3)Any relationship does not simply break off for no reason.There are many blows to it over time which weaken it and finally causes the huge crackdown.Trust and commitment might be gone,but love remains.It can never be erased.Whatever the reason for ending it,it is never greater than the reason for falling in love in the first place.

Sweetie am really worried for you.Hope things get alright.Take care.Lots of love & hugs.

goddess_down_on_knees said...

wudn't it just b luvly 2 have everything as we want it 2 be.......perfect.but babes, they r just so 4 a moment or 2...& den make us cry lifelong..
ppl change, relationships change& dey make us change....i'd say go wid d flow..but smtyms d tide's too strong....but i guess hangin on does make it better...coz u can't b clogged up4ever...so cheer up, hon..ur precious

varun 4ev3 me said...

1. u actually miss sumbody coz shes /hes livin within u na.u cant help it.even wen u have 100s of frens arnd u ll feel alone.
2.it mite sound one sided bt d fact is love is dyin.
3.5 yr old relation may b bt d thing is it could b out of attraction tat u were bth 2gether.or it could b after certain yrs u mite feel tat u were never made for each other, thou it is nt rite bt happens.relationship has no defination y, y nt, wat, could b, jst happens.SUMTYMS u can jst b carried away so far where therez no lookin back bt bt bt lookin back is d word wen a relationship breaks.
nw u think u r standin nowhere coz u r 2 far n nt goin back again 2 far.nowhere or u r now here..
it depends hw u take it..
b happy u kno

Risha said...

A first timer here.
My 2 cents:

1) You miss someone you love because you miss being the person you are when you are with your loved one.

2) It is difficult for people to love each other , just the same.Well, the obvious reason is that we are different!!

3) Long term relationships break because people change with time.But like Sameera said...love remains.

i$hq said...

sweety know what........the answers u r seeking r being quested forever...so chilz!! am sure u r strong enuf to get over ths trivial issue..baby trust me it will haunt u alwez but ya u will fight boldly wid it...jaane bhi do yaaro...**ishhmile puleeeezzz**

CM-Chap said...

Welcome back...

Dnt think too much...jst enjoy

Jaggu said...

Madhu, think practically. Being emotional is good but you know, we have to keep them inside and enjoy. If you throw them out, people will think that you are sensitive and start criticizing you. There wont be any specific answers for your questions, but certainly yo can get them by thinking with your mind rather than your heart. Because mind is more practical. Hope this help.s

The 'Mad' Orchid said...

@ Kishie..
im much better nw,u to already knw it :) :D
u tc as well :-*

The 'Mad' Orchid said...

@ Sammy..
here goes the huggggggggg rite bck to u sweets and re the answers i gt frm u hve made me understnd wht i didnt understnd...
and sweets dnt wry this ws jus a momentary thng tht triggered off nthng tad serious at all..ok babes.
u tc too,lodsa of love n hugss to u too... :)

The 'Mad' Orchid said...

@ Srey
ya u r so rite..hanging on is wt is probably the best thng one cn do in such situations...im fine re u knw na...:D

The 'Mad' Orchid said...

@ Varun
Iam rite here and wil try to live every moment and much better now re.. :)

The 'Mad' Orchid said...

@ Risha..
Welcome to my lil space & thxs fr droppin by..and hope u dnt remain a 1st timer ne longer..and do keep coming in :)and thanks fr ur luvly answers and indeed they helped me in lot many way thanks.. :)

The 'Mad' Orchid said...

@ Ishqie..
I know these questns r eternal ya im fighting n wil survive :) dnt wry m all well :))))) see m smilinghhh

The 'Mad' Orchid said...

@ Chappie
Nt thnking pa..jus came up and gt all jostled in my mind n m fine n enjoying life full on :) dnt wry

The 'Mad' Orchid said...

@ Jaggu..
thanks for ur advise buddy..bt this aint thrwing out..actually wnted these clogged thngs to b vented out..n il try my to drive my mind much more practically n correctly.. :)

--xh-- said...

we do mis su - that i am sure.. now abt the koshuns.. we miss some one coz me love them and we want them to be near to us.
now, u hv got enough gyan from us all so i am nt gng to answer something which i really cant do well :)
dont think much da, thatz all i can say...

Vandita said...

cheri ure crazyyyy :P
as for ur answers well here they are...
1) coz we love the other person and we want him/her to be by our side always so absence doesn't go down well
2) coz every relationship is not balanced sweetie, infact its a rarity even with ppl who claim to love each other dearly one person prolly loves the other person more and is more invested relatively, its almost never a linear equation...just how it is!
3) this is simple coz ppl change and u cant predict it... priorities change, circumstances change and hell life changes... as i said some days ago "its like there is no forever anymore" you just have to take the risk for what its worth.
and last thing... talk to me and chill sweets
hugs!

*~*{Sameera}*~* said...

Really?Then I am relieved! :)

Muaaaaaaaaaaaah

♥bμşγ-ŵŗϊŧēŕ♥ said...

I'm so sorry, I reallllly didn't get this. Seriously. And I read like trice.

:|

Anyway, from what I could figure out, I really don't think "generalised" answers are really valid here. Each person, each relationship, is very different.

Jaggu said...

Good. I think this is just a phase in life. You will come out. Dont worry.

The 'Mad' Orchid said...

@ Anoop..
Thanks buddy..i m nt thinking i was..so worry nt mate im fit n fine and yeah did get lods of gyaan n tht too i m really being missed by people.. :)thnxs again pa

The 'Mad' Orchid said...

@ Dams
Yesh i know im crazyyyy :)no wonder u love me..and as for the answers arre tune relationship ko maths banake aur complicated bana dia :O :p on the serious side i do understnd hw the whole setup works bas tht some situations n circumstances forced or drove such questions into my mind..so just took em off :P otherwse m all ok lemme knw whn u wanna talk to u..im al der..
hugsss rite bck to u too sweetie :)

The 'Mad' Orchid said...

@ Sammy
yeah sweetie...realllllyyyyy..
muahssssss...

The 'Mad' Orchid said...

@ Busy writer..
Tis ok sweetie i myself read it after posting it..it didnt practically any sense to me too :P thot it ws actually stupid of me to post it :P newys..glad u opinionated in ur own way n yeah i agree to u whn u say tht each relatnship is differnt in its own way :)

The 'Mad' Orchid said...

@ Jaggu..
Yeah buddy..n im nt worrying at all..im all fine now :)

Lena said...

hey girl, welcome back! :)
as for your questions, they are kind of unanswerable.

1. we do miss them because they are part of ourselves, just because without them we are incomplete

2. you know i believe that if someone doesnt like you the way you love them it doesnt mean that they dont love you with everything they have got for you. Just we are used to express our feelings in a different way.

3. :( maybe because it is not exactly love and with time people stopped feeling the same, it just faded away **sigh**

Abhishek Khanna said...

ye post padke mujhe kuch shak ho raha hai

s.H.a.S.h.I said...

u miss somebody becoz the mere presence of the person gives u a sense of comfort, joy , security, togetherness etcc. etc..

reciprocating emotions the same amount is difficult to justify.. Each one is a diff personality, some may like to show more of affection, some may not. Each person shows love and affection in his/her own way.. may it be a kiss, hug for some.. or just a mind blowing smile.. fact of the matter is does he/she ?? not how much ??


And thers no rules tht long term relationships dnt fail.. i mean people do change from time to time.. it maybe days, months, or in years.. and u have to accept and move on.. i knw a few people who got married wid each other , within 1 month - 2 month of a relationship.... tht might be short time for sum but not for them.. and 5 yrs is a long time... things happen.. sometimes u just have to let go..

The 'Mad' Orchid said...

Hey lenu...
Missed u too...thxs a ton for ur lovely attempt in answering these questns..i do knw they r kinda unanswerable stil u so knw hw the mind is na..dtz y..jus turbulence of thots nthng serious..

The 'Mad' Orchid said...

Abhi...
Aisa kuch hua hi nahi jo aap shak karen.... mujhe b batao kya shak utha so tht i would try n clear it.. :)

The 'Mad' Orchid said...

Heya doc..
thanks..those answers really helped :)keep dropping more frequently my blog n i miss u :)

Scribblers Inc said...

arre chil maadi...its all goo...if something dint work out, it probably wasnt worth it!!

Scribblers Inc.

The 'Mad' Orchid said...

Hey Scribbler...
welcome aboard man thanks for droppin by :d and yeah i hve learnt my lesson very well and hve let off the thngs whch r nt worthy me :P...duncha wry im all mast n fne n asc usual nw..And btw do i get to see u here more often frm nw on???

Ankur said...

nothing remains the same.. take my word, ppl change like season!! :)

and back aake kahan gayi wapas... no new updates!! :)

The 'Mad' Orchid said...

@ ankur
Jo hukum :) and have ur word too sir :)